How to Navigate Major Life Changes Without Losing Yourself

A guide to maintaining self-care, identity, and mental well-being during big transitions like moving, career changes, or breakups.

Change is inevitable—but that doesn’t mean it’s easy. Whether it’s a move across the country, a career pivot, or the end of a relationship, major life transitions can leave us feeling untethered. You may find yourself asking, “Who am I now?” or “How do I stay grounded in the middle of all this?”

Here’s how you can hold onto your sense of self during big changes:

1. Revisit Your Core Values
When everything feels in flux, your values can serve as an anchor. What truly matters to you? Whether it’s creativity, connection, freedom, or stability—identifying your values can guide your next steps and help you make decisions that align with who you are.

2. Create Small, Predictable Routines
Establishing a daily or weekly ritual—morning coffee, walks, journaling—can restore a sense of control. These rituals aren’t about productivity; they’re about connection to self.

3. Make Room for Grief and Excitement
Transitions often bring up conflicting emotions. It’s okay to feel sad about what you’re leaving behind and hopeful for what’s ahead. Both can coexist.

4. Stay Connected to People Who “Know” You
Reach out to those who remind you who you are—friends, therapists, mentors. They can offer perspective and reflect back the parts of you that may feel blurry right now.

5. Prioritize Rest and Compassionate Self-Talk
It’s normal to feel disoriented. Be gentle with yourself. Rest isn’t indulgent—it’s essential when your nervous system is processing major shifts.

Any major life change involves re-evaluating values, revising your identity, and navigating changes in your day to day routine. It can talk time for things to settle down or for the changes to become your new normal. If you feel you need more support in staying connected to yourself and processing these changes, I specialize in helping people navigate life transitions, and I’d love to support you on your journey. If you are ready for specialized support, please feel free to reach out. You can call me at (424) 231-5877 or send me a note here.